In November 2022, a Reddit user shared her story about a six-year relationship and an eight-month engagement. While she led most wedding planning, her fiancé, Ryan, occasionally gave input.
In October, Ryan surprised her with a request: she shouldn’t wear a white dress. Initially brushing it off as his artistic nature, she later realized his reasoning stemmed from a belief that brides should only wear white if they were “pure.” Ryan, a virgin when they met, was fixated on her having had one prior partner. Despite initial insecurities, she thought they’d moved past this—until now.
When she bought a white wedding dress two weeks before the wedding, Ryan was upset and demanded to see it. She refused, wanting a surprise. He became explosive when she revealed its color, arguing white would deceive guests. His mother sided with her, pointing out Ryan’s double standard since he was no longer a virgin himself.
This argument deeply shook her faith in their relationship. She found Ryan’s obsession with her past and fixation on purity disturbing, despite his lack of religiosity. Venting her frustrations, she reconsidered the engagement.
By November 24, 2022, she had broken it off and faced her first date in six years at a seafood restaurant in North Carolina. Commenters humorously suggested she wear red.
What do you think—was she right to end the engagement?
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